8 miles

by Chris Widener

A major part of the process of achieving success and living the kind of life that you dream of is to give. Many people think that to get what you want you have to take it. There is a universal truth though that the true path to get what you want is to give. When you give, you get. What you sow, you shall reap. If this is true, then what is it we must give? I'll show you the way…

Give Others Your Honesty.
The world we live in has a simple rule that most follow: Lie when you have to. Unfortunately, this may make some people wealthy but it make us humans poor. To achieve success is to become wealthy not only in money, but in character. To be successful, truly successful, is to be able to attain your goals and keep your character at the same time!… How about you? Are you honest in all things? The problem with little lies is they become big ones. Lies spin out of control. You get caught in one lie and you lie to get out of it etc. In all things and at all times, give others your honesty.

Give Others Your Respect.
Most of the time we give people respect based on what they have done or what they have accomplished. We gauge whether or not they are "worthy" of it based on what we know of what they have achieved or who they know or are related to. But I believe we should have a higher standard: We respect people not for what they have done or for who they are related to or for what they can do for us. Instead, we respect people for simply being.…

Give Others Your Vulnerability.
We are taught to "be strong." And yes, we should be strong. But we have also embraced something that I think keeps us from having the kind of life that we long for. It is an idea that keeps us from experiencing the kind of relationships that would bring deep meaning to us. It is the idea of vulnerability.… "But Chris, make yourself vulnerable and people will step all over you!" It is true that this will happen. But I have also seen that most people will be drawn to you. They will help you. They will open up to you. You see, we are all broken people inside. We all have secrets. Yet everyone plays the poser. When one let's down their veil, others soon follow—and we all win.

Give Others Your Care.
Too many people are running around this old earth not caring about others. The days of "Look Out for Number One" and "Winning Through Intimidation" are over! Let's bring about a new day when we can care about others and succeed! Take the time to show people you care. Listen to them. Empathize with them. Love them. Now, I don't mean that you have to go around hugging everyone—that probably wouldn't fly in corporate America anyway—but we can take some time to step back from business and be human! And I have found that when we do so, our business succeeds as well!

Give Others Your Passion.
There is nothing this world needs more than passionate people. And people need passionate people. Living in this day and age can be tiring. The hustle and bustle of it all can wear you down and tire you out. Give your passion to others and fire them up. Don't just be humdrum—be excited. Give people all the energy you can muster up. And you will find that energy reciprocal. They will get energized and passionate. This in turn will fire you up more when you are already charged and get you going altogether when you don't feel like moving at all!

Give Others Your Experience.
We all have areas that we excel in and they are usually areas that we have experience in. One of the things we can do to make our lives more meaningful and be of utmost help to others is to show them the way through the experiences we have. Sometimes it will be what they should do: Shortcuts to take, people to meet etc. Sometimes it will be what they should not do: Shortcuts not to take and people to stay away from! Whatever it is, we can be of service to others by giving them our experience and ultimately it will make us all better!

Give Others Your Help.
All in all, what we want to do is to help others. Zig Ziglar says that if we will "help others get what they want, we will in turn get what we want." If we want to be successful, we should consider ourselves servants of other people. What can we do to help them and make them better? This is the true path to greatness and success, not only in business but in life!

Persuasion power can help you get more of the things you want faster than anything else you do. It can mean the difference between success and failure. It can guarantee your progress and enable you to use all of your other skills and abilities at the very highest level. Your persuasion power will earn you the support of others.
You Have Two Choices
There are always two choices: either you can persuade others to help you or you can be persuaded to help them. It is one or the other. Most people are not aware that every human interaction involves a complex process of persuasion and influence. And being unaware, they are usually the ones being persuaded to help others rather than the ones who are doing the persuading.
The Key To Persuasion
The key to persuasion is motivation. Every human action is motivated by something. Your job is to find out what motivates other people and then to provide that motivation. People have two major motivations: the desire for gain and the fear of loss. The desire for gain motivates people to want more of the things they value in life. They want more money, more success, more health, more influence, more respect, more love and more happiness. Human wants are limited only by individual imagination. No matter how much a person has, he or she still wants more and more. When you can show a person how he or she can get more of the things he or she wants by helping you achieve your goals, you can motivate them to act in your behalf.
A Presidential Insight
President Eisenhower once said that, “Persuasion is the art of getting people to do what you want them to do, and to like it.” You need always to be thinking about how you can get people to want to do the things that you need them to do to attain your objectives.
The Fear of Loss
People are also motivated to act by the fear of loss. This fear, in all its various forms, is often stronger than the desire for gain. People fear financial loss, loss of health, anger or disapproval of others, loss of the love of someone and the loss of anything they have worked hard to accomplish. They fear change, risk and uncertainty because these threaten them with potential losses.
Use Dual Motivation
Whenever you can show a person that, by doing what you want them to do, they can avoid a loss of some kind, you can influence them to take a particular action. The very best appeals are those where you offer an opportunity to gain and an opportunity to avoid loss at the same time.
Action Steps
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.
First, before trying to convince someone of something, take a little time to think and ask questions to find out what it is he really wants. Then, motivate him to act by showing him how you can help him get it.
Second, think about how you can save a person from some loss or guarantee them a particular outcome if they accept your ideas.
Remember, people are motivated for their reasons, not yours.

The ability to ask the right question is more than half the battle of finding the answer.

You are responsible for everything that happens in your life. Learn to accept total responsibility for yourself. If you do not manage yourself, then you are letting others have control of your Iife. These tips will help "you" manage "you."
. Look at every new opportunity as an exciting and new-life experience.
. If you catch yourself worrying about an upcoming task, go ahead and do it now so it no longer is a distraction.
. Get into the habit of finishing what you start.
. Give up "waiting time" forever. Have something with you at all times to work on. For example: plan your day, work on a report, or read a page from your book.
. Avoid worry. The majority of the things you worry about never occur.
. Agree with yourself in advance that you will have a good attitude toward the upcoming task.
. Frequently ask, "Is what I am doing right now moving me toward my goals?"
. Make a list of your accomplishments as you go through the day- they are greater than you think.
. Do it right the first time and you will not have to take time later to fix it.
. Practice concentrating on your work, doing only one thing at a time.
. Accept responsibility for your job successes and failures. Do not look for a scapegoat.
. Do not view things you do as a "job." View all activities as a challenge.
. Take time to be quiet and reflective for a few minutes each day.
. Live effectiveness in everything you do rather then just sporadically applying time management techniques.
. Live in the Now. The current instant is the only time in which you have control-not the past, not the future, just now, in this instant.
. Recognize you control only 50% of a relationship and that is your half. If you are dissatisfied with what is going on, change what you are doing and saying.
. Operate knowing that there is good in everything. Every cloud has a silver lining-look for it.
. Operate on the philosophy that what we give out is what comes back to us
. Get into the habit of writing down a person's name- it will help you to remember it.
. Check to be sure you do not fall into the activity trap of simply doing tasks without knowing to what greater good the task is designed to contribute
. To get ahead in anything, operate in the "and then some" manner. Always do what is expected "and then some," so what you give is always more than is expected by the other person.
. Look at what you do as an adventure. You can discover new things from this new perspective.
. Challenge yourself to do things differently than you have in the past. It provides new ideas and keeps you interested.
. Doing gives you the power to do.
. Compete with yourself to become a little better each time you do something. Achieve your potential.
. Time your routine activities such as telephone calls. Determine how you can "capture" some of the time and use it on other top priority activities.
. Stay interested in what you are doing. Keep looking for what is interesting in your work. Change your perspective and look at it as someone outside your job would.

Benda yang baik asasnya kena baik.
Langkah pertama untuk berubah. Terima hakikat semua orang ada masalah. Masalah asas kenapa sukar untuk berubah - Takut, ingkar, jahil, bodoh sombong & tahu tapi tak amal / amal tapi tak istiqoma'. Tangkal org berniaga - Apapun kita buat, lakukan dengan cara terbaik, nothing short out of the best. Hadis - Ada3 jenis manusia...org yg berjaya, sentiasa lebih baik dari semalam; Orang yg terpedaya...hari ini sama dengan semalam; org yg celaka - org yg lebih buruk dari semalam. ORANG SIBUK BUAT DUIT, KITA SIBUK BERI ALASAN. Orang yg buat duit tak perlu buat alasan.
Langkah bijak usahawan terbilang
1. Bertindak. Fahami definisi kejayaan...apa yang kita nak. Target perlu jelas.
2. Pengorbanan. Tiada kejayaan tanpa pengorbanan dan usaha yang betul. Masa, usaha, kajian.
3. Yakin dan disiplinkan diri.
4. Langkah langkah mencapai matlamat. Fokus setiap hari dengan matlamat yg khusus. Target harian. Doa.
5. Mudah patah semangat. urus emosi (hati).Kita berniaga nak bagi khidmat, sambil cari rezeki, bukan minta sedekah. bersangka baik bahawa Insyaalah rezeki aku akan datang.
6. Ubah tindakan kita..pecahkan kitaran nagetif. Jgn jadi dipatuk ular yg sama di lubang sama 2 kali. Ubah pendekatan utk berubah hasilnya.
7. Jgn takut buat kesilapan. Kita lebih banyak belajar dari kesilapan. Dengan syarat, setiap kesilapan kita ambil pengajarannya.
8. Jual diri kita sebelum barangan yg kita jual. Penampilan diri , kemas, manis senyuman dan sealiran dgn produk yg kita jual.
9. Guna kad perniagaan, Berikan kepada seramai org yg boleh.
10. Jadikan downline anda juga hebat seperti anda. Duplicate.
11. Dorong & motivasikan downline, pekerja, keluarga berterusan.
12. Campur & duduk sama dengan orang yang berjaya. Ikut jejak mereka.
13. Pimpin orang sekeliling kita melalui teladan. Cari kawan yg ramai. Makin banyak kita bersyukur, makin banyak Allah beri. Orang banyak bertindak dari contoh yang mereka lihat, bukan dari kata kata yang dihamburkan.
14. Permudahkan prosedur. Routine kan.
15. Sentiasa berkomunikasi - jaga klien anda.
16. Beri layana melebihi pengharapan. Imbuhan lain yang tak disangka. Gift. Bila seronok, akan menjadi customer yang setia.
17. Sentiasa bercakap tentang perkara barangan atau khidmat yang kita jual, dengan penuh semangat. Tapi jangan berbohong.
18. Belajar dari pengalaman orang yang telah berjaya.
19. Kemaskinikan sistem penyimpanan maklumat secara efisyen. Database klien...hantar birthday card.
20. Elakkan khabar angin. Jgn burukkan barangan oranglain tapi sebarkan kebaikan tentang barangan anda.
21. Lakukan sedikit pelaburan. Buku, seminar, ceramah. Pelaburan yang bijaksana akan membawa pulangan yang baik.
22. Sedekah sebahagian keuntungan kepada pihak yang berhak.
23. Belajar & mengajar orang bawahan kita utk dapat hidayah.
24. Jadikan diri anda contoh yg baik, orang akan yakin dengan apa yang kita jual.
25. Bersatu hati dengan semua pekerja atau rakan kongsi.
26. Sokongan padu dari kaum keluarga.
27. Kejayaan sepatutnya menjadikan anda bertambah baik.
28. Kejayaan berkaitan dengan taqwa. Jangan terlibat dengan perkara perkara yang di tegah.
29. Urus diri dengan pengurusan stress kerana kesibukan..buat senaman, jaga makan. 80% penyakit dtg dari perut. Jangan lupa diri.
30. Seimbangkan diri anda diluar mahupun dalam rumah. Hebat dimana jua anda berada.

One of the greatest and simplest tools for learning more and growing is doing more. The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen. This is my place to set my own personal goal.